Mark My WordPress Blog Thu, 06 Jul 2017 05:08:49 +0000 en-GB hourly 1 Freedom Through Change Mon, 03 Jul 2017 09:58:00 +0000

Yesterday I was talking to a very wealthy man who I used to coach. He earns upwards of £100,000 per month; yes, per month.

He is in his forties, has his own business and is a very unassuming character. He had a degree which he has never used, worked very hard in job for peanuts which eventually left and tried his hand in several business opportunities, all of which never gave him any better income, some just adding to his mountainous debt.

He was advised to pay for a coach who could help but he never did. Instead, he tried again, made the same errors in judgement and this time it was disastrous for him, socially and financially.

Bankrupt, alone and one settee (couch to my American readers), it was his mate who told him that be needed to do things differently.

Interestingly, he didn’t tell him to ‘get a job’ as he had just been made redundant himself for the second time.

That was 2009 and he borrowed £100 off his mate and started another business. However this time he hired a coach.

The coach challenged him to change. It was a long process as the challenge revealed many limiting beliefs he had of how the world works, none of which he had formed himself. These beliefs had been fed him and nearly all could be attributed to his early childhood.

The challenge led him to change his beliefs and start to crest his own success, small at first but like s snowball rolling down a mountain, gained momentum and size.

He now has an amazing marriage, he had reconciled with his now grown children, has a great level of fitness and is abundantly wealthy.

He had the freedom to do anything he wants and spends a lot of time volunteering with different charities, takes a lot of holiday and looks after all his employees very well.

His change has bought him success and more importantly, freedom.

How can you start challenging yourself today to change your fortunes?

Have a challenging day.

– Mark Tanner.

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A Personal Story Sat, 01 Jul 2017 10:45:48 +0000

Yesterday, something quite amazing happened to me and I wanted to share this with you, as it may help many others.

I have a new coach and it was our first session together. I was talking about a particular situation that I wanted to change and although I had been trying, it was still not happening.

Now I am a particular proponent of challenging yourself to achieve better results and that, here I was doing exactly that, changing what I was doing and yet not achieving the results I wanted and so not finding the freedom in that particular area I wanted.

It was his constant persistence to get to the bottom of this thing that kept me thinking more deeply into it and forcing myself to really root around in my childhood to find the cause of this particular trait.

You see, we are not born with values or beliefs. We are a blank page and open to all the influences that pour into us. These beliefs come from parents, wider family and teachers mainly because these are the people who we respect.

From those beliefs come our values and we see the world as through the filter of those values, very much like a light filter on a camera. Frome those values, our behaviours and attitudes are spawned.

My coach was able to help me get right back to my beliefs and where they stemmed from. At first, I thought it was from my family but when I really dug deeply, I realised they came from my early school days, specifically from a teacher who was not happy with a new headmaster.

This guy had been a former teacher, who she obviously knew at the time and then had left to create his own success. He has travelled the world by the time he came back, this time as the headmaster.

The teacher resented his success and told us all about how he has supposedly built his success on the exploitation of others, a very ‘bad’ thing to do. As I was constantly with her at about 5 or 6 years old, guess what? This became my belief and my value of success being synonymous with exploitation was born.

Yesterday, this was identified and now it will be resolved.

The lesson here is that, however much we challenge ourselves to change, some behaviours and values cannot be changed until we get right back to the root of the sponsoring belief. When that has been identified, it can be replaced with a belief and then a value which serves you.

The challenge in this case is to find that root and the good news is, all beliefs can be changed.

So, where is your life not as successful now as you would wish it to be?

I challenge you to explore the belief that is driving that.

Have a challenging day,

– Mark Tanner.

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Are you Sitting Comfortably? Then I’ll begin… Wed, 21 Jun 2017 06:50:52 +0000

When was the last time you woke up feeling comfortable? Did you feel completely in control, with no worries or concerns about anything?                                             
If the answer is yes, then I have a further question for you? How are you growing and developing yourself? If you are feeling comfortable, what is exciting you?                                       
Having spoken to and coached many very successful people, I can tell you that none of them are comfortable. The reason for that is every day, they strive to become better, to learn more, to find the lessons in each day and in many cases, deliberately step outside that comfort zone so they stretch themselves.                                 
Whatever their definition of success is or in whatever way they are currently progressing their life, they realise they need to know more, do more and be more. In a lot of cases, they are also willing to spend more to find the resources that will help them to grow, whether that be a coach, mentor books or seminars.

So if you are really feeling comfortable, then I urge to you to make yourself uncomfortable by trying , learning or doing something that you have never done before or something that you never thought you could ever do. When you are learning or trying something new you become uncomfortable but in that discomfort, there is also excitement.

So back to those who said they were not comfortable. What are you doing about it? If it is something within your control, then take the plunge and do that thing that will fix it. That may take you up another road of discomfort but hey, enjoy the challenge.

If you think it is out of your control, whose help can you ask for? Most challenges are difficult to fix on our own and sharing it with someone who can help, helps you and it helps them also. They grow by helping you to fix that issue.

Following the advice of my mentors, I always live uncomfortably and I am happy with that, as many successful people are. I’m happy with having a to do list that never ends, of having a book list that I never finish and, sometimes with a hefty kick up the backside required, putting myself into situations where I feel totally out of control.

That is where the excitement is; always striving to be better.

So I challenge you to do the same; get uncomfortable and into the excitement of life.

Have an exciting day,

– Mark Tanner.

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Life Planning Mon, 19 Jun 2017 13:01:47 +0000

Planning is an essential part of setting yourself up to achieve a goal. We are normally very good at planning a holiday, or a barbecue or a birthday celebration. We plan these events so we know we will achieve that goal. We prove to ourselves every day that planning works, in the small actions we take.

So when it comes to our life, why do we often fail to put any type of plan in place.

When we were at school, our days and weeks were planned for us. Our timetable told us which lesson we were in and the curriculum gave us an idea of what we would be learning. Whether that was useful to us is neither here nor there but what it did teach us was that planning was an essential process for learning and achieving.

However, when we left academia, a large proportion of people stopped. We looked for a job that may have been somewhere near what we wanted to do but once there, we stopped planning our lives.

I was exactly the same. Life just happened and I would ‘roll with the punches’, like many of us do. It took me a long time to realise that I needed to plan my life if I ever wanted it to turn out as I wished but once I started, I found that I was able to achieve those things I wanted to do, be the person I wanted to be and have the things that I wanted to have.

The bank holiday is a great time to plan, to think about exactly were you are now and what you really want to be, do or have in life. Once you have decided that, you can start making a plan.

Your plan doesn’t have to be particularly detailed at the start and will never be the plan that you finally end up with. However the plan will show you where to start. Take the first step on your plan no start walking towards the life that you want to lead.

Have a thoughtful day,

– Mark Tannel

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sample10 Mon, 19 Jun 2017 12:41:48 +0000 Five days ago, while I’ve been here volunteering in Kenya, I posed two questions to the guys I have been working with:“What is the average monthly wage in Kenya and can be people survive on it?”

Once I had the answers, it was obvious that the average wage was low and was not coping with the the rising cost of living. That is pretty well the same situation in every part of the world, I’m sure. So I then asked the guys one more question. “How can this be improved?”

That question then became our focus for the rest of the week. We talked about it every day, we thought about it and wrote down every conceivable way this could happen and then sought help and advice from various contacts that we collectively knew.

We set ourselves a goal to create a solution to this problem and we focused on this costantly. It became our burning desire to find this solution and now, only five days later, pretty sure we have a solution.

In these five days we have created a company, successfully researched, created and tested a solution to another issue and also solved the challenge with starting this business with very little capital.

This has only been possible to achieve this goal this quickly because we had a burning desire to achieve this, focused intensely on the problem, would not accept that it couldn’t be done and only looked at ways it could be done.

By focusing and working together, we have achieved our goal a day before the deadline we set ourselves.

Anyone can do the same; through focused attention to the goal and working in collaboration with others that want the same goal, you can achieve something that you may have thought was impossible.

So put it to the test; what one goal do you have that, if you achieved it, would radically change your circumstances?

Who are the people around you that would gladly work toward this goal with you?

Once you have that in place, then focus all your attention on It, every second of every day until it is achieved and achieve it you will.

Have a successful day,

– Mark Tanner

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Sample1 Mon, 19 Jun 2017 10:32:35 +0000 We all need people. Like all animals, man needs to socialise with others for our lives to promote well being and happiness.

However, as we know, everyone is different. They will have different thoughts, different agendas, different aspirations different reasons that drive them as well as different incomes, different jobs and the list goes on.

Out of all this myriad of differences, we attract people with similar interests to us and form a social group of friends and sometimes family. The people we attract often mirror how we see ourselves; our self esteem.

However, therein lies a potential stumbling block for many, caused directly by our often very low self esteem.

If we think we’re are not good enough at this, or a little overweight, perhaps we drink a little too much, not as fit as we would like to be and various other thousands of negative beliefs that put a small crack in our mirror of self image, guess what? That is exactly the same type of people we will attract.

These people may not look the same but in some way, they will act the same. It is their thoughts and beliefs that are similar and resonate with us. I’m sure you’ve heard the expression ‘birds of a feather flock together’; Jim Rohn, one of the great observers of our time made the comment “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.

People with low self esteem are often unhappy, angry, cynical, negative, defensive to name but a few and are generally discontent with their lives. When those people have a social group that reflects the same behaviours, nothing will improve and very likely, it becomes a downward spiral. Then who knows where that misery will end?

What makes us want to live like that? In fact, until we start to reflect and think about our lives, we are not even aware we are like that. We are only woken up by severe shock. When life appears to kick us in the teeth and we cannot understand why.

I have been through this on several occasions and it was only until one catastrophic incident a few years back that I stopped, reflected on my life and thought deeply into why I was living the way I was. Once I started that process was when I realised how low my self esteem was. With that identified, I was then able to start making improvements and, some very difficult, changes.

However, those changes have enabled me to grow and develop ad become very comfortable with myself.

So, when was the last time you stopped, took some time out on your own and started reflecting and thinking about your life? If not for a while, then I urge you to, for your own good, today.

Have a thoughtful day

– Mark Tanner

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